Drawn to the dark side

Tips for newbies

2009-08-25T15:47:00.000-04:00

Newbies
If all goes well and you have spent some time and effort getting it right, my belief is that when a D/s relationship is just right you will know inside, it is a feeling in your heart, body, mind and soul – There is nothing more special – and from there your development is assured.
A good Dom will want you to develop at a pace which is right for you, maybe with a few nudges here and there!
It's all about Trust !!! And more Trust !!!

First: If you have met someone on line that you think you may want to meet – firstly ask others about them.

Find out who they are, where they live, get a phone number and CHECK IT OUT!!!! If the Dom is serious they will give you this information. If they don't want to give you this information, get out quick!

Then find a reliable friend or more experienced person WHO YOU CAN TRUST! And give them the information.

For your safety and that of the Dom - Never meet a Dom alone without a safe call being set up! Arrange to be called at odd intervals throughout the meeting and have a safe word in case you need help, let your friend know where you are at all times and when U leave.
Don't arrange to play on a first meeting.

An important question in this lifestyle when meeting new people is – WHY ????
I always ask myself that question these days.
Why does someone want to do this?
How will it help me?
Is this purely for their benefit or is it for my further development?

Been a While

2009-08-25T15:32:00.002-04:00

I know I have been remiss in my blogs and I am sorry.
Since I first started this blog I have gone thru alot of changes in our lifestyle.
I feel like I have grown and learned, thanks to my Master and Love Trickz_.
We are a BDSM 24/7 couple, of course in reality NO one can do BDSM 24/7 life gets in the way and goes on right?
We have done several meets and had several meets and gratherings at our home also, we do demos and all kinda games and fun things and like I said earlier, I have learned alot and grown alot in this lifestyle. Thanks to the love and support and guidance of Trickz_ My love My life.......MY Master

~~Peach~~

Dip in the reality pool

2009-06-12T01:15:00.001-04:00

1. "You do have rights. You have the right to walk away. If you believe otherwise, it's time for a dip in the reality pool."

2. "No one can keep up a 24/7 lifestyle for long without a break for comedy relief, and a swift dose of kids, family, work and car problems."

3. "No man has an erection continuously. Unless they're priaptic, in which case, a doctor's visit is in order."

4. "There is such a thing as PMS, and no amount of Domming is going to make it go away."

5. "A chainsaw is not a sex toy."

6. "Your cyber safeword is the off button on the front of your computer. Use it."

7. "There *is* going to be a time when you don't feel like having sex. It *does* happen. Prepare yourself mentally for it."

8. "24/7 is not a myth. 24/7 in chains, naked and kneeling is."

9. "There will come a time when you see your Dominant scratching himself, belching and in need of a shower. Prepare yourself for that as well."

10. "Eventually, you're going to have to take those cuffs off to take the kids to the doctor. Get used to it."

11 "Speaking of doctors, tell yours what you're into, or be prepared to deal with social services on a regular basis."

12. "People get sick. People die. Use a condom, please, unless you've been tested twice in the last year, and so has your partner."

13. "Don't walk away from your friends. You might well need them later, when your dream Dominant turns into a frog."

14. "If you want something, ask. Ask respectfully, ask in role, ask in good faith. But ask. If you don't, chances are, you ain't gonna get it."

15. "Just because you call yourself a slave doesn't mean that others will agree with your definition. Be prepared to defend your views, but don't bark at others for their opinions. They have a right to them, same as you do."

16. "Just because the screen name says Master doesn't mean he is one."

17. "Find a way to orgasm without BDSM. You may need that someday."

18. "There are things you won't do. Trust me. Maybe you just haven't been asked to do them yet."

19. "This ain't always all about sex. Don't expect to get a nut every time you play. Then you won't be disappointed when it happens to you. Orgasms are nice, but not mandatory."

20. "People are not always nice. You will not play at every party you attend. You will get hurt non-consensually sometimes."

21. "Your Dominant is not a mind reader."

22. "Forever is not as long as you might think. Sometimes, it's just until she changes her mind again."

23. "The Mistress is not always dressed in thigh highs and hose. The Dominant does not always have his flogger nearby. Sometimes, it's time for sweat pants and hot cocoa."

24. "An argument is not the end of the world. Not resolving it, however, might be."

25. "Sometimes, a fuck is just a fuck. A beating is just a beating. And a kiss is just a kiss. Enjoy it, remember it, and move along."

Life in 09

2009-06-12T00:57:00.002-04:00

Life in 2009:
Life:
Webster's defines it as:
the sequence of physical and mental experiences that make up the existence of an individual
hmmm does it really have to be all that complicated?
We have had a rough year...starting with the ice storm, right on down to the meet and wedding of Chas and Trickz and myself both being sick.
We are hoping that the second part of 09 is a little smoother for us, we have moved and both like the house, so maybe things will get better....Life goes on right??
Love to all our friends...hopefully i will be around more now :)

Just a reminder...

2008-11-02T18:46:00.002-05:00

Just a reminder to our friend, new and old, there is a link on this site to our store...where we do custom make floggers and paddles and tawes are our newest lines and they are working out great...so stop by and indulge in your dark side...or just stop and look around and sign our guest book
~~Huggles~~ Peach

2008-11-02T18:42:00.001-05:00

Common Mistakes Made by New People

The number one mistake I see those new to D/s making is thinking there is a right and a wrong way to go about playing. While there are some safety rules that should be followed, the only people who make the rules are the ones involved in the scene or relationship. If anyone else tells you that you are doing this wrong, tell them to mind their own business.

A mistake I often see new subs make is submitting to anyone and everyone who calls themselves a dominant. Just because someone sticks "Master", "Mistress", "Dom" or "Domme" in their screen name doesn't mean you have to call them "sir" or "ma'am" or submit to their demands. For the most part, a reputable, experienced dominant knows this and will not demand unearned respect. New dominants are sometimes guilty of this. If someone hasn't earned your respect, why would you act like they have?

Something else I have seen is the "Dom is always right" syndrome. The joke is there are two rules in D/s:

"The Dom is always right"

"If the Dom is wrong, refer to Rule #1"

That's what it is, too... just a joke. Dom are human and are sometimes wrong. It isn't a sin against the D/s gods to respectfully suggest to your Dom that he may be wrong... especially if it involves a safety issue. Just because you are a sub doesn't mean you check your brain at the door. If you are the dominant and make a mistake, don't be afraid to admit it and apologize. It won't make you any less "domly".

Finally, many newbies think that the Dom pleasure is the only thing that matters. Sure, as a sub it is your job to please your Dom, but it should please you as a sub, also. We play these games to make everyone happy. While there may be times you do something to please your Dom that you don't enjoy, if you find yourself doing this consistently you are probably with the wrong partner.

I have posted this in another blog on a private site...but i thought i needed to be posted again, these are the most common mistakes i see.
~~Peach~~

2008-10-29T21:47:00.002-04:00

I love my Master,
He has made my life worth living again.
We have made some wonderful friends on our journey to our new life.
I have a reason to get up in the morning, a reason to smile...It's all him, For a long time.....i wondered if our life as one would ever get started, and when it did...it was scary at first.....but we fell right into our life together, life is good.....we have our baby boy with us , and we seem to be able to see our friends more, which makes me happy happy ~~smiles~~
Life has lead us into Ill for now...neither of us plan on staying here, we want to get back to kentucky...closer still to our friends.
I really wish we could all move alot closer :(....Huggles up everyone again ~~~Peach~~~

Are there any rights and wrongs

2008-01-09T11:08:00.000-05:00

I have watched and listened for well over a year now, in the room and in private chats,
Are there any Rights and Wrongs in Bdsm??
Everyone has there own way of doing things, As Trickz stated in the previous post
Lately there seems to be alot of controversy among our group...
Ok so what i don't understand .......still..........Dom/Domme'........Master/Slave
subbie.............whatever.............Aren't we human first...........People...Friends...
Mothers...Daughters.....Dads....Sons............I don't get it......why the big uproar
I for one...........don't care who is Domme'.......or slave/subbie.......or even Dom
Don't mean a damn thing to me..........first and foremost...........YOU are HUMAN!!!!
and if you have to primp and preen and SHOW how Dominant you are....Then are you really
Dominant as All ???
Just my opinion........:)
Don't Burn your Bridges
Peach

Trickz Philosophy

2008-01-05T20:11:00.001-05:00

Seeing as how many will undoubtedly ask, I thought I might as well go about explaining my views on things. And it should be noted that this is but one view among many, So to each their Own. First off, don't let anyone tell you your doing it all wrong. We are all different, the trick is to find what works for you and your partner. Note that i said partner, because for me, its not about an acquisition of playmates, but the building of a harmonious long term relationship. Some call themselves Dom others use Master; the same with Sub or slave. I favor the terms Master / slave. The reason is because I define Master/slave as more true followers of a discipline and Dom/ Sub are more into the play part. I'm sure that statement will cause an uproar but like I said...this is MY view and maybe it will become more clear as I explain why I feel this way. Doms/subs will play with most any willing partners that they find agreeable to there terms, or it at least looks that way to me. As a Master, I have chosen and taken my slave, and yes..just one. She is not a slave in the usual sense, but rather is enslaved by her love and devotion for me. This bond is what makes it all work, I am her Master, she serves only me. I am Master because I have mastered myself first, defined my philosophy, know who and what I am, and what I want. I am HER Master, because pleasing me, keeping me content, pleased and proud of her is the driving force in her life. She is by no means a doormat, her feelings and needs are taken care of by me, As any good owner would treat his most prized possession with the utmost love and caring, so then my slave is adored. Its a beautiful symbiotic relationship, My every wish is her command, when she see's me pleased and happy, then she too is happy. And as I am made to feel her love for me, my love for her grows, she is happy..because she KNOWS she is loved. I am happy, because I KNOW I am loved. She takes care of my want, I take care of her need. Some might wonder just how far does the power of being her Master go, well..Let me say that she would do anything I asked, But would a Master who loves his most prized possession, abuse that power? I'd have to say NO. I would never ask her to do something that would cause her any distress either physical or emotional, that my friend is what being a Master is, knowing where and when to push, knowing the limits of power, and taking her needs into full account. These are the traits that earn me her devotion, and love. I would much rather have her undying devotion based on love, than her blind obedience based on fear. Now would this work for anyone...perhaps...but it does work for us.

Peach had alot of......questions

2008-01-03T17:57:00.000-05:00

I was very new to the lifestyle....only have read about it, never was a part of it...I knew what I liked and knew what I wanted......was way to scared or knew how to go about getting it.
I shyly obtained a membership to alt.com and figured.....What's the worst that could happen? Right?
Well.....within two weeks for joining, I had met and feel in love with the man of my dreams.
My Master and Love Trickz_.
He quickly became the center of my world....His Happiness is what I live for, but boy oh boy....did he spent countless hours explain things to me ......he helped me open up and let my true slave heart show thru.......under his guidance and love......I have flourished.
I trust him
I believe in him
He owns me heart and soul
I love him